Recently, due to several coinciding circumstances, I asked myself the question: Well, why, even when I want to do something truly unselfish, useful and kind, I am faced with the fact that this is running in place, that this cannot help anyone and does not save anyone ? Why are all good impulses absolutely useless - they do not decrease, but do not increase? (this was the case with volunteering, this is how I often felt at work)
I don’t have my own family, I don’t have children either, I don’t have a partner now either, so the understanding of my own uselessness in this situation borders on deep depression.
And then the most banal thought dawns on me! As usually happens with banal truisms, they reach us when they become felt and conscious. So here it is.
“You can’t save everyone, but one is quite possible!”
It is difficult to consider yourself completely useless if you have at least a couple of acquaintances - not necessarily very close people - for whom you can do something. It seems to me that the trick to this feeling of futility is that we set ourselves unattainable global goals, without breaking them down into smaller tasks that make up a major achievement.
Let’s say I want to eradicate all wars on earth, but I lament that when I preach on the streets, no one listens to me, no one has that very seed of doubt in their soul.
What if you sequentially imagine your steps towards this goal?
To eradicate wars, I need to 1. follow the principles that I proclaim, 2. choose a profession related to peacekeeping, 3. raise my children in this way, etc.
I can develop any idea that interests me into a program of action, and the beginning will always lie in the area closest to me - professional or personal.
Take small steps - be polite to your loved ones, creating comfort, treat nature with care in order to contribute to its conservation, transfer symbolic amounts to charity, take up tutoring for a child who cannot be provided with a paid tutor - just choose your area within which are able to offer something.
Life is probably too short to turn the world upside down (unless you are one of those great ones that happen once in a century))), but very small and very private benefits can always be brought. Just make one person next to you happy - that’s a lot for one human life!)
I will probably never be able to find an excuse for suicide on the grounds of “somehow it doesn’t feel right to me,” so I answered exclusively the second part of the question =)
This is the strangest question of my entire stay here.
Well, imagine, for example, the question: “My iPhone is dead, should I charge it or throw it in the trash?” My answer is this - it depends solely on your desire. The iPhone is yours and your life.
If the problem of “uselessness” is as acute as possible, and you don’t know “where to live” - go as a loader to Auchan. Your benefit to society will be that you will help products reach consumers. Important, meaningful work. You might break your back, but in any case it’s better than suicide.
And as soon as you want something even more meaningful, and ideas appear, you can move on.
There are no completely useless people in society. This is the first thing. And secondly: is, in principle, “usefulness for society” the main goal of human life?
You walk somewhere, meet someone, communicate with someone, be friends with someone, love someone, hate someone, sit in some in social networks and in general, your life is endless actions, no matter what they are. If we are to exaggerate at all, then even if you just lie on the couch for days, you fill the life and work of those people who produce furniture with meaning, and if you drink constantly, then you give work to the liquor industry and doctors.
If your life seems meaningless to you, then also think about the fact that it is so only at this particular moment and no one, not even you, knows how everything will be in the future. Perhaps tomorrow you will pull a passerby’s sleeve while crossing the road, thereby saving him from death under the wheels of a car. Will there be any meaning or benefit to society?
Even if you have already definitely and unequivocally decided that you are unable to do anything good and are firmly convinced that the best solution is to die, then go to the hot spot. You don't care how you die, right?
I don’t have the slightest idea what’s going on in your life, in your head, but I know for sure - life is worth living! You can find a bunch of quotes, songs, books yourself on net, so I’ll say one thing - everyone deserves to live; happy life, please don’t think that thoughts of “uselessness to society” are a reason for suicide, no.
If you believe that your destiny is to leave a mark on history, the time will come, and what should happen will happen (I'm not a fatalist, just a proven formula). If you don’t think so and feel some kind of incompleteness, meaninglessness, it can always be found in something. In little things, in actions, in people, and even if not, believe me, everything in the post attached below is worth feeling. Be happy.
As I understand you... It’s a pity.. that three years have passed.. I’ve never regretted.. Time.. But in vain... Every minute is important... Today I dreamed of something strange. It’s not clear..Perhaps there is a reason for this..
Suicide harms society. Firstly, people who encounter it, even quite random ones, are often traumatized, therefore, it spoils the emotional situation in society, spoils the health of these people (emotional traumas, one way or another, often lead to physical injuries or illnesses), which is also harmful For society, no matter how you look at it, all this together spoils the economic situation. Secondly, any person involved in the economy (i.e., working somewhere and buying something) is technically always useful; the economy is the movement of funds. There are, of course, particularly terrible professions that, from some points of view, are rather harmful to society, but they are few and there are different points of view on most of them. Thirdly, suicide, especially unsuccessful suicide, requires work from social services, which are already overloaded. A successful one doesn’t make anyone happy either - someone will have to discover the body, again, injury.
Which you should exclude from your life. Some guys, however, didn’t like it, but the taste and color of plasticine are completely different. What to do if you identify yourself in one of these unnecessary people? Brodude in Once again will help you understand the intricacies of the human soul!
Once again, it's worth making a digression from the topic to make sure that no one reads it. An “unnecessary person” is someone you need to get rid of because he doesn’t have any positive impact on your life and is even harmful. It is also worth noting that an “unnecessary person” is not unnecessary for everyone. For some people it may be the most wonderful thing, for others it may be unnecessary, and for others it may not be of any concern.
1. You're showing off
You try to turn your life into a theater, you work for the public and are superficial, but at the same time you have an amazing ability to convince people that you are the one cool person, of which there are only a few in the world. You quote Hegel, Nietzsche, talk about the unconscious, but at the same time you don’t fully know what it is, using information from dubious sources. What to do, how to stop being such a person?
I'll tell you right away, man, I don't believe that a show-off can reform. Showing off is a way of thinking that is much stronger than you. I don’t know what makes people ostentatious - a lot of attention in childhood or its complete absence, did this tendency appear from a young age or did it become part of the character throughout life? There are quite a lot of answers to this question, the only problem is that I personally don’t see a solution. A show-off can realize that he is superficial, that people look at him carefully, understand that all his words and actions are a sham, and turn away, but what can he do about it? Remembering Pelevin, with whose work I have a peculiar relationship, I would like to quote the following: “Do you know what the unconscious is? What if you definitely meet someone who knows this?” A meeting with a person who really knows and can do something will destroy the show-off. Remember this, dude, but I don’t know exactly how to help you. Maybe you should delve deeper into an industry National economy, read more different books and try to be diligent?
2. You are a willing ignoramus.
Do you seriously think that a simple person is one who runs away from any foreign literature and impressionist paintings like from fire? After all, a glance at the work of a non-Shishkin can turn him into stone? “Being simpler” for you means not reading something more complex than books from the “Stalker” series (does it still exist, interesting?).
A simple guy is someone who is easy to talk to. This is not the guy who constantly sees a threat in someone's words and who can flare up for any reason. This is the guy who knows how to forgive, the one who is on board, doesn’t start quarrels and with whom anyone can talk, because he is friendly enough and does not judge others based on their first impression. A simple dude was, for example, my university philosopher, whom one would hardly call ignorant, while a girl named Lyuba, who drank a lot of my blood a few years ago, was a typical voluntary ignorant and had the disgusting character of a “complicated person.”
3. You're a leech
First, realize that not everyone needs your help. Even if a person feels bad, perhaps he will get out of this situation himself. Secondly, there is no point in demanding repayment of a moral debt. Good deeds are good because they are done just like that. So, if it seems to you that everyone around you is a bastard because they don’t want to repay your debts, pay for your beer and do other nice things in exchange for your past services, try to get used to this thought and stop being angry. No one owes nothing to nobody!
4. You are someone who “only lives once”
Admit that you are not an enlightened fatalist, but someone who wants to give a nice name to his desire to receive pleasure quickly and without much effort. It is much easier to get drunk than to go to the mountains or start playing sports. You're just a lazy hedonist, is your banal philosophy really stopping you from living an interesting life?
5. You're a talker
Talkers, like all the dudes on this list, don't realize that they talk too much. Most often, they learn about their annoying trait from other people. If you are ever told that you talk too much and are not relevant, you will most likely become angry or offended, rather than realizing that it is time for you to improve. The best remedy for a talker is to start thinking. Do you want to say something? Stop and ask yourself a logical question: “Why the hell do I need to say this? Why do I need to tell this life story?” If the answers are in the spirit of: “To say”, “To hear my voice!”, “People need to know what I ate last night!” - Do not say anything. Bite your tongue, sit down and be silent. It's another matter when the talker rambles off topic. If you have this sin, and the topics of your dialogues do not fit well with each other, whenever you want to give an example from life, think about how well it fits into the topic of conversation. If you want to tell a story from your life, think about your audience. If you still want to, try to shorten the conversation by two and a half times. Do you think this is too much? Think about the people around you!
6. You are constantly depressed
If you want to complain about life, Nobody likes complaints, complaints are tolerated, but only from people who are nice. Nobody wants to see your boring sour face floating around the corner. Be sure that they sincerely want you dead.
7. You're down to earth
Well, what can we do with someone like you? Down to earth skeptic! The flight of your soul is more like the “flight” of a flying squirrel or, in the worst cases, like falling from a great height with your face on the asphalt. Perhaps you are dissatisfied with your life and do not understand that unsatisfied ambitions, desires and work in the wrong place can lead you to neuroses, depression and questions to the editor of our magazine.
Understand that there are a lot of people in the world who are happy with what they do, achieve success and become very famous. , For example. The problem of a down-to-earth person is that for some reason he couldn’t find himself and is now sure that it’s all lies.
Hello. I feel like an absolutely useless and unnecessary person in this life.
Now I'm 22 years old, but I haven't done anything worthwhile in my life.
First, a little history: I was born in a small town, graduated from school averagely, never had any special talents, was just a gray and inconspicuous boy. I moved to another city and entered the university. From the age of 15 to 18, I still somehow developed morally, and then life just stopped. But that’s not what I want to talk about. What I have now: I entered an unloved university in a specialty that I was never able to master. Now I am in my fifth year, but in a couple of days I will be expelled, because I absolutely do not understand what I have learned in these five years. And I understand that five years have been wasted. Five long years that I will never be able to get back. It so happened that I play in the theater (this activity has nothing to do with the university). I'm not talented, I just liked this job and I did it as best I could. But I had to look for a normal job and try to build my life. The theater does not bring in a lot of money, so I depend half on my parents. Why fuss, I’m stupidly sitting on their neck. And if there are moments when the earnings from performances are quite decent, then I stupidly spend all the money on equipment I don’t need, expensive alcohol and other crap. And I disappointed my parents, did not live up to their expectations. They no longer see my future. Yes, and I have a hard time watching him. I don’t know how to do anything sensible and I don’t know how to learn it. I tried to sit through tons of textbooks in order to somehow master the specialty in which I am studying, but all this is for me Chinese letter— I look and see hieroglyphs, I don’t understand how people even master this. I have almost no friends, and the rest don’t want to cry for their lives. No girl. And I don’t understand the one that once was at all - I don’t understand what she saw in such a loser and why she met me, but I am grateful to her for this bright time. So it turns out that he is a useless piece of meat, who by the age of 22 had not been able to build his future in any way, to do something worthwhile, to lay a foundation, to be useful. I don't know why I live. Due to crazy performance schedules, I completely ruined my health. I have nothing left that I can offer in gratitude to those people who pulled me along all this time. All I earned during this time were words. But no one needs my theater, no one needs my performances, no one is interested in my songs and stories. Because these are just words, not something practical. And recently also on computer games I got hooked, which is why I hardly sleep. And now for others I try to seem like a completely happy person, pretending that everything is fine with me and that I’m not hanging around. It’s strange, but this also stops some people from being depressed.
And now I have found a person from whom I can buy a pistol. There is money and there is a person. All that remains is to acquire and do the right thing - to cleanse the gene pool of humanity from yet another useless piece of meat. I really don’t know what I’m doing here and, in general, “why am I”?