Barbara Sher: It's not harmful to dream. How to get what you really want. There's no harm in dreaming. How to get what you really want Points that surprised me

Scientific editor Alika Kalajda

Published with permission from Andrew Nurnberg Literary Agency

No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without the written permission of the copyright holders.

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Dedicated to my mother, who always believed in me

Preface

It’s hard to believe that thirty years have passed since the moment when I held my first book in my hands, looking at the cover with the title “It’s not harmful to dream” and my name. My life hasn't changed. At least not right away. Just like ten years before, I raised two boys alone, worked hard and had difficulty making ends meet. Not to mention that I was almost forty-five and by the standards of 1979 it was considered too late to start something new, especially for a woman.

But that day I felt like Cinderella at the ball, because my book was published. Everything was like a dream. Deep down, I was always afraid that I would live my life and no one would know about me. Everything was fine now. I wrote a book good book, and I had no doubt about it, because it was based on a carefully designed two-day seminar that I had successfully conducted for almost three years. I knew that this seminar was helping people. Before my eyes, they used my techniques to help each other achieve the seemingly impossible, opened their own businesses, got their plays staged in New York theaters, received grants and went to Appalachia to photograph local children, entered a prestigious Faculty of Law and finished it, found ways, assistance and adopted children. These dreams were as unique as their owners.

I hoped that “Dreaming Isn’t Harmful” would help people the way my seminar helped them, but I wasn’t sure. The seminars were recorded (a lot of audio tapes - after all, each lasted about twelve hours), everything was presented in the book in the same words as in the classes. But there were people working face to face, and I was worried that the book wouldn't have the impact it needed.

There was no need to worry for long.

A few weeks after the book came out, I started receiving letters. Real letters are in envelopes, hand-addressed and stamped. At first I received several letters a week, then more and more, and after six months my closet was already filled with cardboard boxes with letters. Readers thanked me for my practical approach and simplicity - for understanding their lives, for helping them pay attention to their dreams.

I warned them that they would face fear and negativity, and they appreciated it. They liked my advice to complain to someone every now and then.

Some, paying attention to the training origin of “Dreaming is Not Harmful,” began reading my book in groups. Sometimes it took them a year to go through it together and realize their dreams. Some said they studied Dreaming Isn't Harmful in a college course, others wanted to create “success teams” using the book as a guide and asked for help in doing so. Many simply read the book and said that they no longer felt lonely. By letters they let me into their lives, they wanted to say that thanks to “Dreaming is Not Harmful” they were understood, heard and found help. I experienced an incomparable feeling.

Thirty years have passed and I'm still getting Thanksgiving letters, and sometimes from people who, years later, reread “It’s Not Harmful to Dream” and tell me that the book helps them again and again. Sometimes their grown-up children even write to me.

I have a small stack of my very first letters. And also several emails that continue to arrive to this day. But no matter how many reviews I receive, I always feel honored and excited when I read them, and try to respond personally.

Since 1979, “Dreaming is Not Harmful” has been constantly republished. Publishers happily accepted my new manuscripts and published new books, the fate of which also turned out well.

Thanks to “Dreaming Isn’t Harmful,” I became “someone.” Journalists contacted me for comments on their articles. I have spoken hundreds of times to audiences ranging from Fortune 100 companies to offshore job search firms to parent unschooling conferences. 1
Unschooling is a type of home-based family education based on the interests of the child. As a rule, it does not involve systematic training and following training programs. Here and further approx. ed., except where otherwise noted.

And gifted children in rural schools. I have performed in the USA, Canada, Australia and Western Europe, and even in countries that have recently gotten rid of the Iron Curtain and want to learn to dream again.

As of this writing, I have produced five special editions of my speeches for fundraising marathons in support of public television channels and plan to continue. Sometimes they even recognize me at airports, which is surprising, because usually after long flights I am disheveled, tired, and even with a dog in my arms. I don't look like a celebrity and I don't get treated like a celebrity. We talk like old friends, and I really like it.

From a personal point of view, the success of “It’s Not Harmful to Dream” exceeded all my expectations. I have had the rare and amazing opportunity to help people achieve their dreams by offering them techniques that are practical and work. Help even if they don't see their goal, have no idea how to believe in themselves, or can't stay positive. I make them laugh at their own negative thinking and show them that they already have everything they need to create the life of their dreams. It’s just that isolation destroys desires, but outside support works wonders.

Now my message, first heard in “It’s Not Harmful to Dream,” has resonated with millions of people. Thanks to this, I can make a living doing what I really love. Like everyone else, I had my ups and downs, but I never got bored. Not for a second. Therefore, thirty years flew by in an instant.

And it all started with the book you are holding in your hands. I sincerely hope that “Dreaming is Not Harmful” will give you a life as interesting and full of meaning as it gave me. Moreover, I hope it inspires you to help others achieve their dreams. This will make me the happiest.

Introduction

This book is written to make you a winner.

No, it is not intended to drive you like a tough coach in American football - “Go and trample everyone there” - unless, of course, you yourself strive for this with all your heart. However, I don’t think that most of us enjoy the opportunity to trample our rivals and remain alone at an imaginary peak. This is just a consolation prize, which those who were not once explained what it means to win are striving for. I have my own definition - simple and radical.

Winning, in my understanding, means getting what you want. Not what your dad and mom would like for you, not what you consider achievable in this world, but exactly what you want you are yours desires, fantasies and dreams. A person becomes a winner when he loves his life, when he gets up every morning, enjoying the new day, when he likes what he does, even if sometimes it is a little scary.

Is this about you? If not, what needs to change to become a winner? What is your deepest dream? Maybe lead a quiet, peaceful life on your two-hectare farm? Swim out of a huge Rolls-Royce while reporters' cameras flash? Photograph rhinoceroses in Africa, become vice president of the company you currently work for, adopt a child, make a film... start your own business or learn to play the piano... open a theater with a restaurant or get a pilot's license? Your dream is as unique as you are. But whatever it may be - modest or grandiose, fantastic or real, distant like the moon in the night sky or very close - I want you to start taking it seriously right now.

We have always been taught that dreams are something frivolous and superficial, but in reality everything is completely different. This is not an indulgence that can wait while you do “serious” things. This is a necessity. What you want is what you need. Your deepest dream is rooted in your very essence, it consists of information about who you are now and who you can become. You must take care of her. You must respect her. And, above all, you must have it.

This is available to you. You can do it.

Wait a minute! You've heard this before. And if you are like me, then just the words “you can!” enough to set alarm bells ringing. “The last time I fell for it, I cut my forehead! The world is tough and I'm not in the best shape. I don't think I'm ready for all this positive thinking stuff again. Perhaps you can. But I experienced this on my own skin, and I know that I can’t.”

I've seen a lot of books and programs that promise that you only need to take ten simple steps to self-esteem, self-discipline, willpower and positive thinking, and I know what I'm talking about. This book is different. Written for people like me. People who were born without outstanding qualities and have lost hope of acquiring them. Do you know how to persistently achieve a goal? Me not. As soon as I started sticking to at least some kind of routine on Monday, by Wednesday I was already giving up. Self-discipline? One morning I went for a run. About four years ago. Self confidence? Oh, it filled me up after the success workshops. It lasted exactly three days. I'm a pro at procrastination. I love watching old films when I need to do important things. My positive attitude inevitably gives way to fits of despondency. As a well-meaning but tactless friend of mine once said, “Barbara, if you can do it, anyone can.”

And I did.

Eleven years ago, I landed in New York, divorced, with two young children, penniless and a bachelor's degree in anthropology. (Are you laughing? So you know how useful this degree is in life.) We were forced to live on welfare while I looked for work. Luckily, I found something I liked. I worked with people, not with papers. Over the next ten years, she opened two very successful businesses, wrote two books and one tutorial for her seminars, and also raised two healthy and sweet boys. (And she also lost nine kilograms. And even quit smoking. Twice.) And yet she hasn’t changed a bit in better side. I still get distracted all the time while doing something. I am often in a very bad mood. But I achieved everything myself and I love my life even in times when I hate myself. By my own definition, I am a winner. So you can become one too.

I relate to this short word as a starving person approaches bread. If ten years ago some kind soul had told me exactly how to make my dreams come true, instead of kindly assuring me that it was even possible, I would have saved a lot of time and pain. While I tried to believe in myself and overcome bad habits, I failed and blamed myself for it. This continued until I gave up trying to fix myself and tried to come up with techniques that would work in any conditions (because I wasn’t going to live to the grave without getting what I wanted, whether I deserved it or not). It was then that I came across the secret of those who achieved true success. It's not about superhero genes or a grip of steel, as the myths say. Everything is much simpler. What is needed is to know the right techniques and get support.

You don't need mantras, self-hypnosis, character-building programs, or new toothpaste to start creating the life of your dreams. You need practical problem-solving techniques, planning skills, skills and access to necessary materials, information and contacts. (See , and .) You need a smart strategy for managing feelings and weaknesses like fear, despondency and laziness that won't go away. (See and.) Changes in your life can cause temporary emotional turmoil in your relationships, and you need to learn to cope with this while getting the extra supportive support you need to make risky decisions. (See.)

The “embodiment” part of the book is based on the needs and capabilities of people as they are, not as they should be. I had to figure it all out on my own through trial and error. I don’t think you need to take such a difficult path either. So I am sharing with you the results of my experiments: techniques tested in “success teams”. Thousands of men and women have used them to make dreams come true in everything from running stud farms to hand-binding books, from choral singing to city planning, from writing children's books to selling valuable papers. The second half of “Dreaming is not harmful” is a detailed answer to the question “how?” Now I will tell you only one thing: you don’t need to change yourself, because, firstly, it is impossible, and secondly, you are already good enough. With pencil, paper, your imagination, your family and friends, you will create a life support system that will take on the hardest things and allow you to perform with maximum energy.

But, of course, first you have to find out what you want.

The first half of the book is devoted to desires. Unlike the ability to turn dreams into reality, the very real - akin to engineering or carpentry - skill of wishing does not need to be learned. In humans it is innate, like the ability to fly in birds. For your imagination to gain wings, you don’t need anything extra, but you will have to get rid of some things. From the enchanting spell "it can't be done." And from the heavy burden of disappointments that you probably carry after the last unsuccessful attempt to realize your dream. Many of us have never been told how to make a dream come true, and after several attempts we are convinced that it is impossible or terribly difficult. So they began to aim lower and be content with what seemed available. But here's what's interesting: the art of making wishes come true, which the book talks about, will not work if you do not put your wildest hopes and most cherished dreams into it. Techniques and strategies explain How win, but our desires are extremely important For what, this is the force that drives the entire mechanism.

Our language is full of expressions about the impossibility and helplessness of desires - “you can’t achieve anything by wanting alone”, “wanting the moon from the sky”, “ethereal fantasy”, “hopeless dreamer”. It's all nonsense. Desires and dreams are the source of all human endeavor. See for yourself: humanity has been striving for the Moon for many millennia, and in the 20th century we got there. This is what desire combined with skill can do: it can change reality. Yes, desire alone is not enough for this. It, like steam without an engine, will simply dissipate in the air. But a technique without desire is like a cold and empty engine: it will not work. If something seems difficult, stop and try to understand what exactly is difficult for you: completing paperwork? dig a ditch? clean the floor? If necessary, you can do this, but it is incredibly difficult to put your heart into such an activity and devote your whole life to it.

In our society there are a lot of hardworking and responsible people who know How get the job done, but never felt like they were allowed to look inside themselves and find out What that's what they want to do. If you are one of them, then the first part of the book will be a revelation for you. She will help you understand how and why you lost touch with your dream, and tell you about simple and enjoyable exercises for getting it back. And then it will help you make what you love a real goal. Far from being impractical or irresponsible, doing something you love is more like an oil well: you get a surge of energy that will propel you to the pinnacle of success.

On the other hand, if you started reading the book with a clear understanding of your desires and goals and are looking only for specific instructions on how to achieve them, you may be tempted to skip straight to part two. But still read the first part. It will be easier for you to formulate your goals as clearly as possible, which is already half the victory. I promise it will expand your understanding of what can be accomplished in one human lifetime.

The famous psychotherapist Rollo May wrote a book called “Love and Will” 2
Rollo May. Love and will. M.: “Vintage”, 2013.

My book is about love and skill, the two most important components of real success. Now let's move on to you.

Part I. Human genius: feeding and care

Chapter 1. Who do you think you are?

Who do you think you are? Very interest Ask. And how interesting it would be if those who asked us about this in childhood really wanted to get an intelligent answer. Unfortunately, they didn’t need an answer at all - they already had one ready. They spoke:

“Who do you think you are? Sarah Bernhardt? Take off this shawl this minute and wash the dishes!”

“Who do you think you are? Charles Darwin? Well, get that nasty turtle off my desk and go do your arithmetic!”

“Are you an astronaut? A scientist like Madame Curie? Movie star? Who do you think you are anyway?

Sound familiar? Many of us heard this question growing up. Usually at that acute moment when we are especially vulnerable, because we decide to do something for the sake of our dreams, plans, cherished thoughts. But just imagine that this question is asked with interest and participation, without causticity and the usual contemptuous tone.

I propose to conduct a very simple experiment. I will ask you this question again. But now try to hear exactly the question in it. A question that is awaiting your answer. Who do you think you are?

Exercise 1. Who do you think you are?
Take a blank sheet of paper (we will use a lot of paper) and answer - from a few sentences to half a page - to the question: who do you think you are? I'm very interested. What are the four or five main traits that define your personality? There are no right or wrong answers, and there is just one rule: don't think too long or too hard. Just write down the first thing that comes to mind: “This is me.”

Now look at your answer. I'm more than fifty percent sure that you wrote something like:

“I’m twenty-eight, Catholic, single, working as a secretary for an electronics company, living in Buffalo.”

“Height 178 cm, weight 79 kg, black hair, brown eyes, Italian, former football player, votes Democrat, Vietnam veteran, electrical salesman.”

“Former teacher, married to her beloved man, a general practitioner, mother of three amazing children: Marty, thirteen years old, Jimmy, eight years old, and Eliza, five and a half years old.”

Or:

“Black, born in Detroit, eldest of five children. My father worked for General Motors. Studied at Wayne State University, B.A. Programmer. Next summer I’ll marry the girl I’ve loved since school.”

When we meet, we usually say something like: “I work here, live there, married, single, earn money, don’t earn money, mother of so-and-so, Protestant, go to school.” Having exchanged such data about our life and work, we think that we have told the main thing and have some idea about each other.

What can I say? We are wrong.

Undoubtedly, all this is very important for us. Our life, in fact, consists of life experience, history, roles, relationships, earnings, skills. We choose some of this ourselves. Some of what we call our choices are actually compromises. Something completely random.

But this is not your essence.

You might be surprised, but if I were sitting next to you, helping you choose a goal and plan your ideal life, I wouldn’t ask anything like that. I wouldn't care how you make money unless you love your job. I wouldn't ask about what you usually include in a resume - experience, skills, education. Too often we are great at doing things we never chose to do, things we were forced to do, like typing or scrubbing floors (as in my case). This is not at all what we like.

When it comes time to choose a business that you would do with joy and energy, a business that would bring you stunning success, your skills are completely unimportant. In fact, they may even get in the way unless you sternly relegate them to the background. Forget about them for now.

Yes, yes, that's right. I want you to now forget about your job (unless you adore it), your family (even if you adore it), responsibilities, education - everything that makes up your reality and personality. Don't worry. They're not going anywhere. I know they are important to you. Some of this is necessary and very expensive. But all this is not you. Now focus on to myself.

I'm interested in, what do you like.

Perhaps you can give an answer. Perhaps not. It could be your job, a hobby, a sport, going to the movies, something you like to read about, a subject you'd like to study in school, something that fascinates you when you happen upon it, even if nothing really you don't know about it.

Scientific editor Alika Kalajda

Published with permission from Andrew Nurnberg Literary Agency

No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without the written permission of the copyright holders.

Dedicated to my mother, who always believed in me

Preface

But that day I felt like Cinderella at the ball, because my book was published. Everything was like a dream. Deep down, I was always afraid that I would live my life and no one would know about me. Everything was fine now. I wrote a book, a good book, and I had no doubt about it, because it was based on a carefully designed two-day seminar that I had successfully conducted for almost three years. I knew that this seminar was helping people. Before my eyes, they used my techniques to help each other achieve the seemingly impossible, opened their own businesses, got their plays staged in theaters in New York, received grants and went to Appalachia to photograph local children, entered a prestigious law school faculty and graduated from it, found ways, assistance and adopted children. These dreams were as unique as their owners.

There was no need to worry for long.

Thirty years have passed, and I still receive letters of gratitude, sometimes from people who, years later, reread “It’s Not Harmful to Dream” and tell me that the book helped them again and again. Sometimes their grown-up children even write to me.

Since 1979, “Dreaming is Not Harmful” has been constantly republished. Publishers happily accepted my new manuscripts and published new books, the fate of which also turned out well.

Thanks to “Dreaming Isn’t Harmful,” I became “someone.” Journalists contacted me for comments on their articles. I have spoken hundreds of times to audiences ranging from major Fortune 100 companies and offshore job search firms to parent unschooling conferences and gifted children in rural schools. I have performed in the USA, Canada, Australia and Western Europe, and even in countries that have recently gotten rid of the Iron Curtain and want to learn to dream again.

Introduction

This book is written to make you a winner.

Barbara Sher, Annie Gottlieb

There's no harm in dreaming. How to get what you really want

Wishcraft

How to Get What You Really Want

Scientific editor Alika Kalajda

Published with permission from Andrew Nurnberg Literary Agency

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Dedicated to my mother,

who always believed in me

Preface

But that day I felt like Cinderella at the ball, because my book was published. Everything was like a dream. Deep down, I was always afraid that I would live my life and no one would know about me. Everything was fine now. I wrote a book, a good book, and I had no doubt about it, because it was based on a carefully designed two-day seminar that I had successfully conducted for almost three years. I knew that this seminar was helping people. Before my eyes, they used my techniques to help each other achieve the seemingly impossible, opened their own businesses, got their plays staged in theaters in New York, received grants and went to Appalachia to photograph local children, entered a prestigious law school faculty and graduated from it, found ways, assistance and adopted children. These dreams were as unique as their owners.

There was no need to worry for long.

Barbara Sher

Your dream job. How to make money doing what you love

Barbara Sher

Barbara Sher's Idea Book

How to Discover What You Really Want (Even If You Have No Clue)

Published with permission from ICM Partners

Legal support for the publishing house is provided by the Vegas-Lex law firm.

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Introduction

I don't want to be in the business of selling, buying or processing anything. I don't want to sell what I bought, or buy what I sold, or process what I sold, or repair what I sold, bought, or processed. You see, I'm not interested in this.

John Cusack's character in Cameron Crowe's Say Anything (1989)

– What is yours about? A new book, Barbara? – a security officer asked me at LaGuardia Airport, where I had recently flown out. He sees me so often that we have long been friends. This time he was standing at the second X-ray scanner, about two meters away from me, and the airport was noisy.

“About how to do what you love and not die of hunger,” I shouted.

Without exception, everyone in both lines stopped and looked at me.

Usually, if you scream in New York, no one stops or looks in your direction. But here everything was different.

The employee checking my luggage leaned closer.

-Can I talk to you? I really need to come up with something. “I don’t want to leave the children alone all the time,” she whispered.

The man in front of me, who had a laptop sticking out of his briefcase, stepped out of the line, gave me a business card and asked:

- Write me please.

– Where can I get your book? – asked the woman standing behind me. – When will it be in bookstores?

I definitely struck a sensitive chord.

I have always liked books that offer many interesting and unexpected ways to make money. Even before I started hosting Idea Parties and Success Team workshops in 1975, I had amassed quite a library on the subject. Here we talk about 365 ways to make a living without work, and about dollars that are knocking on the door, and about 100 ways to start your own business with 1000 dollars. I still look through these books periodically, although many of the ideas there are outdated.

But most of the ideas for the book you are reading came from my daily work. The main and favorite component of this work - in private consultations, in telephone lessons, television programs, seminars, or at any time when they recognize me and start a conversation - is to try to find ideas that allow dreams that seem impossible at first glance to come true. Usually it goes something like this.

I ask: “So what do you want to be when you grow up?” And my interlocutors answer: “I don’t know.”

So far this has never been true. In a matter of minutes we found out that:

1. They know exactly what they want, but it seems so impossible that it was never seriously considered.

2. They want too much and can't choose just one thing.

The second scenario is something I can usually deal with in a matter of seconds: “Who says you have to choose one? Do everything." And I immediately get great results. At first, people are silent and frozen - sort of like a horse in a pen that suddenly notices that the gates in front of it are wide open. Then they smile broadly, and I seem to hear them thinking: “Exactly!” And they look as if a mountain has been lifted from their shoulders.

But with the first scenario it is more difficult. Why do dreams seem so impossible? Because these people, like most, rely on common sense and their dreams stop before they even reach the starting gate. They believe that what they love should bring in money - by money we usually mean a regular salary. Or that the dream is expensive: to have your own mini-hotel, you need to buy a house from Victorian times. Or that vast experience and appropriate education, while all this is not only not necessary, but can also complicate the job search. They always have a lot of attitudes: they are already too old, and there is no market for their product, and there is not enough time... and so on in the same spirit.

Among those who turn to me for help, about 99% are like that. And it turns out that the best way to help is to show as many completely new ideas as possible that will explode their patterns and demonstrate how limited and inaccurate traditional ideas can be.

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In general, many dreams die undeservedly. People give up because they lack information. Corporate employees are convinced: there is only one way to start a business - with mandatory business plans, bank loans and investors. Those who belong to the teaching and scientific community believe that any occupation certainly requires education and an impressive achievement list. However, some people do exactly what they love and make a decent living - without business plans, loans, sitting in an office from nine to five, or an advanced degree.

So, if you also think that doing what you really love (and not starving) is impossible, it's time to take a fresh look at things. You need a different approach, a different perspective, innovative strategies. In other words, you need many, many ideas to finally see truly original ways to do whatever your heart desires.

Fresh ideas are a wonderful thing and absolutely necessary to chart a path toward a goal that will satisfy you. Of course, even the best idea “doesn’t produce milk,” as my rural neighbors often say. But don't worry. When you come across ideas that pique your interest, this book has a first-class way of tailoring them to your needs. (Check out Appendix 2, Idea Soup.)

If a person has a dream, then his life is valuable. The absence of a dream devalues a person’s existence, because it is desires and goals that make one move, adapting reality to suit oneself. Alas, in modern world people give priority to money. They spend the day at work, forgetting that they once wanted to travel to the mountains, jump with a parachute, or write a book. The rhythm of life does not allow one to be distracted by daydreams, and people naively continue to think that these are just little things that are not worth the time spent. Barbara Sher with Annie Gottlieb and their famous book “Dreaming is not harmful” will prove to everyone that dreams can come true!

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What is this book about?

Each of us has a dream, even the smallest and most banal one, for example, to eat a huge pizza or get a puppy, but it exists. The surprising thing is that we do nothing to make it come true, and then we get upset, falling into depression, that the dream remains a dream. Paradoxical, but essentially true.

Barbara Sher and Annie Gottlieb in the book “It’s Not Harmful to Dream” will prove to you that every dream should come true. The authors of the book are confident that to achieve this goal it is not at all necessary to master hypnosis, go into details of the history of the object of adoration, or even study magic. To make your wish come true, it is enough to have the necessary information and be able to correctly set plans with several options for solving problems that have arisen.

What does this book teach?

In the book “Dreaming is not harmful. How to Get What You Really Want" Barbara Sher and Annie Gottlieb will dispel stereotypical methods for achieving your own goals and realizing your cherished dreams. The authors believe that each of the magical illusions must be translated into reality, which can only be done by the person to whom they belong.

Barbara Sher and Annie Gottlieb tell you what it takes to make your dreams come true and offer effective ways to achieve this goal. The authors' tools will certainly allow you to become a happy person who does not know what depression is.

Using the methods and strategies proposed in this book, you will be able to turn your dreams into very concrete realities, while using simple tools to achieve your goals, the principle of which every person can master.

Who is this book for?

Do you have dreams, but you don't know how to make them come true? In this case, the book “Dreaming is not harmful. How to get what you really want, exactly what you need most. The guide to improving your life is designed for a wide audience, because every person’s dreams should come true.