Almost every person at a certain stage of life is faced with a situation when he has a desire to change his habits, behavior, character. Throughout their lives, people can endlessly change for the better, because there is always something that does not suit them.
Self-improvement and striving for the better change a person's character, his attitude to life, and the world begins to treat him differently. The whole set of changes entails an improvement in life. The lofty goals that used to seem so far away become available. While we are changing, we are growing.
What can cause the desire to change the current way of life for the better? One of the main and strongest motivators that stimulate the desire for change is fear.... This can be the fear of losing something dear (health, loved one, children, family, job, status, etc.) or the fear of not having time to get something out of life (the same list).
To begin to change, a person must know and understand that there is a solution to the current situation, he must have hope for a way out. That is why a girl in love, in order to lose weight and not lose her beloved, goes to the gym and the pool, and a person who has had a heart attack immediately quits smoking. Fear of poverty and poverty was the motive for hard work for many people who became rich as a result.
A person will not change for the better if the developing life suits him, and he believes that he will live well anyway. He will not change if he does not see the possibility of a way out of the current situation - this is how people with serious illnesses resign themselves when they believe that there is no hope of recovery. A simple conclusion follows from this: in order to change, you need to realize how dear to you what you can lose or how bad it will be in life if everything remains the same.
There is also an article about the one that used to be loved. It has several ways to let go of the person with whom you broke up, but you cannot forget and this interferes with building new life.
Where to begin
There are no ways to change something in yourself quickly and painlessly. Miraculous means that allow you to eradicate bad habits or acquire positive ones in the blink of an eye have not yet been invented. The desire to change oneself and one's life achieves success only when certain efforts and work are made to achieve the goal.
For a start, it's good to understand what exactly does not suit you in yourself, what prevents you from living. You need to find out how bad or good qualities you have what they might be needed for. You should choose those that hinder change the most and that you need to get rid of first.
Trying to get rid of all bad habits and qualities at once is not worth it - this is an overwhelming task. Positive traitsthat are in every person, it is worth developing and cultivating, like a gardener tending flowers. Even freed from weeds, roses will not smell if not cared for - so our virtues need to be cared for.
Positive thinking
The usefulness of positive thinking has long been recognized by everyone and does not require additional evidence, but complaints about life, people, and the weather have not diminished. Priest Will Bowen, after a long observation of people's behavior, concluded that their thoughts, influencing emotions, feelings and actions, depend on the statements of people.
For those who wanted to make changes in their lives, the priest advised them to wear an ordinary bracelet and live without gossip, complaints, irritation for three weeks. In the event that a person forgot himself and spoke negative words, he put the bracelet on his other hand and began to count the days again. The experiment lasted until the bracelet remained on one hand for three full weeks.
The method proposed by an ordinary priest turned out to be very effective - the participants in the experiment changed a lot. A life without complaints made people, from the moment they woke up, realize that they should not speak out about negative things, and the best way to refrain from this is to learn to notice all the positive in themselves and the world that surrounds them.
The test participants learned to self-control over thoughts and words, but without the ability to control oneself, one cannot change for the better. In addition, during the experiment, everyone learned a lot about themselves and their thinking.
Appearance changes
Changes in the inner worldview will certainly lead to a change outwardly, cardinal or affecting certain features of the general image. By starting to think positively, you will forgive the offenders and stop wasting energy on resentment.
By realizing that you are unique, you will love yourself and learn to express your love for loved ones. The desire to defend against the hardships of the world by eating, alcoholic beverages, smoking will disappear.
Self-confidence will appear and the shoulders will straighten, the gait will become confident, the eyes will sparkle. The world will change, you will have new friends and hobbies. There will be a desire to change the image, to change outwardly, because the old image no longer fits the inner content.
And, conversely, often a person feels insecure in life, because he does not like his own appearance... Having got rid of extra pounds, having made a new hairstyle or updating the wardrobe, it changes first externally, and then internal changes come.
If you have a desire to change for the better, externally or internally, do not put it off until tomorrow, Monday, or next month.
Take action now, whatever the day of the week and time of day, because every second of life is irrevocable and cannot be returned.
How to change yourself? If you ask yourself this question, it means that you are already a very mature person. People are more likely to ask the question of how to change other people or circumstances.
Only an adult and reasonable person understands that any changes in life begin with changes in oneself.
It’s really fortunate to realize that managing your life’s circumstances begins with changing yourself.
How to start changing correctly
Setting goals
Changing yourself is a worthy decision. But where do you start? Before you change yourself, you need to understand exactly what goals you are striving for. What do you want to see as a result of your changes? After all, you can spend a lot of effort, and then be dissatisfied with the result.
The goals that may require changes are very different, for example:
- Make a dizzying career.
- To start a family.
- Find health and beauty.
- To gain a high position in society.
- Create sources of passive income.
But it must be borne in mind that in order to achieve a particular goal, certain qualities will be required:
- For example, the qualities necessary to create a family for a woman: kindness, tenderness, desire to take care of children, meekness, obedience, loyalty, devotion. And if a girl sets herself the goal of creating a family, then it will be beneficial for her to change and develop precisely these qualities.
- If the goal is to build a career, other qualities will be needed, such as purposefulness, assertiveness, determination, strength.
- Of course, you can develop all the qualities in yourself a little bit with an undefined goal. But with this approach, attempts to change are likely to quickly come to a standstill. Since actions in the absence of a goal do not bring much satisfaction, therefore it is lost to move on.
Therefore, it is very important to set a goal before you start changing. One “want to change” is not enough to transform yourself. Change begins with targeting. This is the answer to the question: "Where to start transforming yourself?"
Finding examples to follow
The next step in changing yourself will be to find people who have already achieved similar goals.
Knowing end pointyou want to get into, you can try to find your own path. But one must understand that such a search takes a long time and very often does not lead to anything. Sometimes it is like trying to invent your own writing and language.
It is much easier to explore examples of the development of those people who were in a similar situation and were able to change it. It is very important that they can overcome it successfully. It is advisable to take not one or two examples.
- BIOGRAPHIES OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE
What can be taken as an example? A great option is biographies. , in this or that area, sometimes they write books about how they overcame difficulties, how they changed.
Reading biographical books helps to identify personality traits that contributed to the achievement of goals through change. Choose books, the authors of which could say with confidence: "I changed myself completely and got decent results."
- PEOPLE AROUND YOU
Sometimes examples can be seen in life. For example, a friend who did not develop her personal life for a long time, but then she changed herself and found family happiness.
Or a colleague who first held a minor position, but then. Observe people who are getting what they want. Celebrate their qualities, do not hesitate to ask for advice.
- LECTURES, TRAININGS
Listening to lectures and attending trainings is also a good option to meet the right people... Sometimes the leader of such trainings himself is a successful person who is ready to share his experience on how to change. And went through great changes in the past.
- PSYCHOLOGICAL LITERATURE
Reading and helping to change yourself. However, not all books will be useful.
Therefore, study the reviews and try to find out as much as possible about the author's life. Not all authors of psychological literature deserve to be examples of how to change.
- RELIGION
If faith is not unacceptable to you, then you can read or listen to lectures by clergy. There are often people among them who have the knowledge of how to completely change and are good role models.
Studying someone else's experience
The next step in self-improvement will be to study the experience of people who have been able to change the course of their lives. Studying their experience, you can systematize it and understand how to change in order to become like them and achieve goals.
Read books, attend trainings, study biographies, gather as much information as possible from someone else's experience on how to change yourself.
Do not rush into the pool with your head. Some things may not be understood at first. That is, there will be no understanding of why this or that thing needs to be done, how to apply it and why it is needed. Do not write off, gradually introduce into your life what is close and understandable.
- For example, if you decide to become a leading person, then by starting it right from Monday, by Tuesday of next week there is a great chance to dump him.
- Why? Because when the thought “I want to change” comes, a person rushes to change everything at once. That is, a newly minted follower healthy way life begins to get up at 6 in the morning, do exercises, eat vegetables and fruits, instead of the usual dumplings, quit smoking and skip drinking alcohol at the next birthday.
- As a result, after a few days or weeks, this lifestyle becomes unbearable. The person returns to the old habits. Question: "How to change?" now he worries much less, there is a feeling of aversion to changes.
- As you study other people's experiences, join them gradually, with understanding. If you're going to get up early, get up 30 minutes early tomorrow. After three or four days for another 10 minutes. Gradually bring the ascent time as desired. It should become a habit, not self-abuse. And before doing something, it is very important to understand why you need it.
Where to look for support and how to stay motivated
When deciding how to change yourself, it is very important to remember that motivation and desire change integral companions of progress.
Naturally, the desire to change over time will increase and decrease. Sooner or later, the first fuse will pass, motivation will begin to decrease. There will definitely be situations on the path of change when it seems that there is no progress.
There will be situations when it seems that the changes are going completely in the wrong direction, that they do not in any way bring you closer to the intended goals. Sometimes there may be a strong desire to give up everything and return to what was.
But remember to say the phrase: "I changed myself completely, I have achieved success!" can only be those who nevertheless reached the end, those who coped with all the difficulties, experienced difficult moments and those who did not give up.
To cope with the difficult situations that arise along the path of change, create an environment for yourself that will help you not to quit. What are these conditions?
The correct attitude to failure
There will undoubtedly be successes and failures in the process of change. It is important to deal with failure correctly. You don't have to beat yourself up for every mistake.
Failure is good too. Because it provides food for thought and analysis. It helps you understand your mistakes and not commit them in the future.
If you are not mistaken, then you are most likely not learning. Every miss is fraught with an equal or even greater opportunity. Learn to see failure as opportunities and lessons.
An environment conducive to change
Without a good environment that shares your goals, change will be impossible. There is no such person who never doubts. There are very few people who can resist the pressure of others for a long time. In order to survive periods of doubt, rejection of society, it is necessary to have the support of like-minded people.
It is not necessary that there are many such people, but at least one should be. Since it is the support of someone who shares your aspirations and beliefs that can change everything.
Tracking the progress of changes
- Motivation is lost due to the inability to feel progress. The solution in this case would be a diary or any other way of fixing the current state.
- Go back from time to time to old records about yourself to see that changes are still taking place.
Possible obstacles
Often a person who declares “I want to change” and starts moving in this direction is perceived by others with hostility.
Do not worry, with the question: "How can I change if those around me do not support me?" faces each one who decides to go their own way, change and develop.
Environment preventing change
For example, someone in a company has stopped drinking and no longer drinks alcohol. Usually such statements provoke violent reactions. Because you can't just quit drinking. This requires a very compelling reason, such as illness or pregnancy. It cannot be otherwise.
People around you, as a rule, are afraid of change, they do not share your desire to change. Perhaps, if you do not stray from your path and achieve good results, over time these same people will wonder how to change themselves.
But for now, they will most likely react negatively or cautiously.
Personality traits that prevent change
In addition to people, I hinder changes in character traits such as laziness, fear, indecision. Old favorite habits also hinder progress:
- For example, a person takes care of his health, learns wholesome nutrition, exercise. But then laziness and old habits begin to attack. Eat delicious in the evening, skip workout.
- Drive such desires away. Create an environment in which bad habits and character traits will be difficult to manifest. Then in time you will happily say, "I changed myself completely."
Today I want to talk to you about personal growth, or rather, about how to change your life.
People begin to think about this question, as a rule, when the level / way of life ceases to suit them.
In the first case, there comes the "X" moment, when everything in life seems to be not bad, and sometimes even everything is good, but something is clearly missing. A person begins to think about the meaning of existence. Asks himself questions like - "Am I doing this?", "Why am I living?" and others…
In this case, the person is simply ripe for a new stage in his life. He is ready to grow and develop. In this situation, help in the form of simple advice is usually not needed. He himself is able to evolve. When a person grows to this level of awareness, then the maximum that he may need is a personal mentor ...
There is another case when a person is looking for an answer to the question of how to change his life. There comes a moment "F" (or full "F") when a person comes to the conclusion that it is time to change something, that it is impossible to continue living like this. Everything is bad, the job is not pleasant or it is poorly paid, the quality of life is not up to par, the health is neglected ... There may be a lot of reasons.
And at such moments, people are characterized by an emotional impulse to start living differently, to change their lives for the better. For most, this impulse passes as soon as the situation stabilizes. For example zadolbal tired of being overweight and a person makes a clear decision from Monday or immediately from today, to play sports or go on a diet. But when, after a couple of days, emotions subside, then everything returns to normal.
Or problems with finances, a lot of debts and so on ... When this whole situation is aggravated once again, the person decides to change his life for the better and is actively acting for some time. For example, looking for a new job or deciding to learn how to manage their expenses. And as soon as the financial situation stabilizes a little, then all zeal comes to naught, the person calms down, and life again begins to flow according to the old scenario.
There are situations when some serious event completely turns life upside down. And once an emotional decision is made, it gives strength and incentive to action and to cardinal changes in life.
And if you are not satisfied with the current quality of life, you are ready really take care of yourself, your life, then I have for you a few tips... All this has been tested on myself and my life experience.
Let me give you a personal example: That was about nine years ago ... My life was going downhill. At that time, my daughter was 2 years old, I did not work yet and we lived on the meager salary of my husband (now the former). The marriage began to fall apart, constant scandals, reproaches, mistrust and stuff like that. Having become a housewife, I lost most of my friends (more precisely, not friends, but rather friends, acquaintances and colleagues). A couple of real friends still remained.
And that's when one unpleasant incident happened, which became the last straw (let me not write about it). Then I made an emotional, but absolutely balanced decision - a divorce. I just asked him to leave, and the next day he took his things.
I will not pour out all the details, I just want you to understand what life situation I was in at that moment. A small child in her arms, a decent amount of debt, no job and a complete lack of money in my wallet. But at the same time, the maternal instinct, belief in oneself and in a better life, and it is not clear from where, the forces that came from.
With this "baggage" I began to establish and change my life.
In less than three days I had already returned to work. Found a way to combine caring for my daughter, home and work. Then, I paid off my debts. I recovered some old connections and found a bunch of new, interesting and useful acquaintances. In general, I got back on my feet in less than a year.
This was the first turning point in my life. But he gave me a boost in my personal development.
Then there was a new shock, searches, depression and much more. Then a new, even more interesting stage of life. At the moment I have not been employed for more than 5 years, I am financially independent, I travel ... But about all this, maybe some other time ...
I will not bother you with the story of my life, and let's go directly to the advice that I can give you. Where do you start?
Change your thoughts
"Change your thinking - and you will change your life!"
I believe this phrase his life motto... Because at one time, a deep understanding of this phrase has greatly changed my attitude towards negative situations.
Our thoughts and our perception of the world around us directly affect events, situations and life in general.
Start reading
Yes, yes, read. And not to read newspapers and magazines, and not fiction, but books that provide food for the mind. Personal growth, motivation, psychology, time management, business literature. Finally read the book by Richard Branson "To hell with everything! Take it and do it! "
I read at least one book a week. There are about a hundred books on my Ipad and the collection is periodically replenished with new copies, and the read books are sent to the corresponding "read" folder.
Change habits
Start loving yourself, taking care of yourself and your body. If possible, give up bad habits.
Start building a new healthy habit into your life every month. I hope you know that any habit builds in in 21 days. That is, in order to accustom yourself to, for example, daily exercises at home, you just need to devote at least a few minutes to this every day for 21 days. This way you will develop a habit. Well, increasing the training time will no longer be difficult.
Invest (invest in yourself)
Do you want to improve your life materially? Learn to handle money correctly. I'm not going to tell you about assets and liabilities in this article. You can read about it in the books by Robert Kiyosaki.
But when it comes to investment, the best investment is in yourself! Do not spare money for education, books, trainings, image, training. The money invested in self-education is the best asset that will pay off in the future.
Improve yourself. Build on your strengths and develop the skills you need. Communication problems? Spend some money on public speaking courses. Does your salary depend on the number of sales? Go to business trainings where you will be taught how to sell!
If you are wondering what additional skills I have pumped over all this time, then
Change your environment
Our success is highly dependent on our environment. If you have surrounded yourself with whiners and losers who are content with little, then you have almost no chance of becoming successful.
Start communicating with people who have already achieved the results you are only striving for. Make acquaintances, communicate, ask them questions ...
Start recording
Write down on paper or in a text document your ideas, plans, goals, objectives.
While the goal is in the head, it is not so much a goal as an ephemeral dream. As soon as you write it down on paper and set the deadline, then the dream becomes a real plan (task).
Don't put ideas in a distant box
Once you have a great idea, don't rush to discuss it with a friend. Just start bringing it to life.
These are the simple rules that can change your life for the better.
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Each of us should strive for self-improvement and work on ourselves all the time to become better. Some will ask why this is necessary, is it so good? The answer is simple: no person is immune from falls and losses. At some stage in life, any of us may be at the very bottom. What if we do not know how to improve ourselves, our inner qualities, our attitude to life? Personal growth is very important to being. If a person realizes that he is not developing, this may well oppress him, because aimless empty existence does not bring joy to anyone. If you are thinking about how you can change yourself, take note of our tips.
There is no limit to perfection
So what is the meaning of life? In order to improve your character and strive for new heights every day? Or maybe that, having found the meaning of existence, teach this to other people. Both answers are correct.
Having embarked on the thorny path of self-improvement, it is necessary to clearly understand that there is no limit to this process and cannot be. It is like a mathematical concept of "infinity", where all values \u200b\u200btend to it, but cannot reach it in any way. Paradoxically, the more a person works on himself, the more he develops, the more he learns, the more often he is visited by thoughts about how little he has done and how little he has learned.
Whenever we do something well, we rejoice that we can do it even better. The feeling that there is no limit to human perfection gives strength for new achievements.
To change yourself, it is enough to analyze the actions of people who have managed to achieve great heights in terms of self-improvement. You need to learn from successful individuals. Below we give some useful tipsthat can help you develop. Some of these recommendations are very simple and will help you change something in the near future. And some of the steps are responsible and long-term, and in order to rise one step higher, you need to make a conscious effort.
Reading of books
The beginning of development and self-improvement is laid with reading literature. Read every day, because a book is a source of knowledge and a storehouse of wisdom. Remember that the more books you read in your life, the more wisdom you have absorbed. Some books can be especially helpful because they provide practical advice on how to achieve a desired goal.
Learn foreign languages
It doesn't matter which language you choose to study. It could be japanese language, Mongolian, or some of the Chinese dialects. While learning a new language, you come across a different culture and can understand more about the life of the people. Through such familiarization, you will be able to gain new useful experience for yourself.
New hobby
Do not stand still and do not dwell on the habits and hobbies that you acquired in childhood. Choose an interesting course for yourself that will introduce you to new skills. A new hobby is a great incentive for self-improvement. You can also try a new sport. This does not mean at all that morning runs will have to be sacrificed. Let 1 or 2 times a week from now on you begin to devote to rock climbing. And having already perfectly mastered the climbing skills, you can switch to another equally interesting sport, for example, ice skating.
New hobbies do not have to be chosen from the category of needlework. Take a closer look at completely unusual courses, master web design, take an Italian cuisine course or become a regular at the dance hall, conquering everyone with incendiary steps to the rhythm of Latino. But you never know many versatile and exciting activities that help to reveal their talents and learn something new.
In the process of learning, you will notice how you will become rich emotionally, become smarter and stronger physically. Don't assume that multiple courses at once will get in the way of your focus on new skills. Sometimes attend seminars and lectures. The more often you go out and learn new things, the more you will be organized.
Create a suitable interior for yourself
Changing your life means changing your environment. Where will you get inspiration to achieve your goals, no matter how beautiful and favorable atmosphere? If you like the interior where you spend the lion's share of the time, inspiration will be born daily. Understand one simple thing: oppressive walls and everyday life will not be able to give you strength, they will only pull you back. If you do not want to enter your room, being turns into survival.
As soon as you surround yourself with cute things and get rid of the trash, repaint the walls in beautiful colors and replace a few pieces of furniture, everything will change. The forces for work will take themselves. But if you want to achieve stunning results on the path of self-discovery, make a good stylish design, the existence of which will feel like a fairy tale. The more often you admire the work done, the more you will respect yourself.
Fear and insecurity are the main obstacles
Everyone is capable of experiencing fear. And a dangerous situation is nothing compared to the fear of relocation, new beginnings and uncertainty. Someone is afraid to appear in public, while someone is simply not sure of themselves. Any fear prevents a person from developing. How to get around the fear that stands in the way of self-improvement?
Imagine you never get it desired result and you cannot take a single step forward. The realization that you will stay where you are will help you to look the unknown in the eye. Fear for a person can be compared to a compass. Where the arrow points, there you need to go. If there is something in life that you are afraid of, eliminate those feelings.
Don't quit improving your skills
If there is something in life that comes easy for you, constantly develop your skills. Do not let your fingers forget how to pass the most difficult level in a video game, keep writing articles if you have been blogging for a long time, speak to the public more if you have performed before. Think there is something that you have always done well? If so, hone your craft.
Listen to your biological clock
Learn to get up early, because in the morning a person is most active. Before lunchtime, you will have time to redo as many things as you sometimes don’t do in a whole day, waking up late. Getting up at 5 or 6 in the morning (along with the sun) will only do you good. Know that as soon as you wake up in the early morning, your thinking will start all active processes.
Be sure to train your body. Weekly workouts can do wonders. Let you spend as little as 30 minutes jogging every third day of the month. In summer, you can alternate jogging with cycling or swimming. The blood will circulate more powerfully to saturate your brain. 
Don't be afraid of psychological experiments
Sit down and write a letter to your personality, the way you see it, say, in 5 years. Compare the present yourself and the personality that exists so far only on paper. Do you find any differences? Now do the same, just refer to yourself a year apart. How do you see yourself after this time?
Seal the letter and put the envelope in a secluded place. Mark the date from which the countdown will begin on your desk calendar. Now you have the most difficult part. Every day you will work to truly transform into the person described in the envelope in a year.
Conclusion
If for some period of time you feel a constant state of comfort, it means that your self-improvement process is in a stupor. We grow only when we overcome difficulties. Memorize your achievements and write them down in a separate notebook. Perhaps you will find much more than 42 ways to help change your life for the better.
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Is it possible?
Can a person change dramatically?
Can you change your temperament? Is it possible to change your life scenario, fate?
To begin with, it is important to answer the question: is a person able to change so that practically become a different person?
When we live in certain conditions, nothing new happens around us, then there is no incentive for development... In this case, it is almost impossible to change, especially if there is no motivation.
A person lives in his comfort zone. Yes, he has a small salary, an unsuccessful personal life, but he still seems to want to change everything, but he does nothing. always scary.
Our actions, goals, motivation are affected - these are established in the process of social development features of the psyche and personality. The basis of character, what is given to us at birth, is.
A type nervous system it is almost impossible to change, although it is quite possible to learn to act differently, to develop specific features in oneself.
For example, if he wants to be more active, sociable, then he will have to try and work on himself. quite capable of learning to control himself, although this is given to him with difficulty.
Over character traits can also work.
If you are not comfortable with specific personality traits, have a plan to get rid of them.
There is a theory that we have a definite destiny, and we cannot change it... However, many people's examples disprove this theory. For example, people born with disabilities.
They could live on a disability pension and be content with it. But there are those who, despite the difficulties, work, achieve, become famous and respected people.
Part of the script has been written into us since childhood. Parents, the closest environment instill in us attitudes, form character. Childhood injuries are particularly affected.
But that doesn't mean that have to put up with it... It is in our power to change the scenario prescribed in us by our parents; we just need to identify what prevents us from becoming successful and achieving what we want.
What can you change in yourself?
What would you like to change in yourself? Yes almost anything... If you want to be more relaxed, to learn public speaking skills - go to courses, trainings.
You don't like your temper - yoga classes will help. You understand that muscles are weak, you are inferior to other people in endurance - why not go in for sports.
AT modern world huge number of possibilities.
And it's not that we can't, but that we don't want, we are afraid, we are lazy, we don't want to leave our usual comfort zone.
But only in this way changes occur.
How to know what you want to change:
- write your own and personality traits, evaluate what you would like to leave and what to get rid of;
- list your achievements;
- write what you would like to achieve, but did not achieve;
- think about what prevented you from getting what you want;
- who do you blame for your failures - the outside world, your parents, yourself;
If you cannot decide on your own, then go to a consultation with a psychologist... He will conduct appropriate tests and help you choose the direction of travel.
Choose a professional coach who deals specifically with the problem of self-development.
Where to begin?
How to change your life for the better? Any change starts somewhere. They don't happen by themselves. The exception is traumatic situations when there is sharp revaluation of values.
Where to begin? Understand exactly what you want to change. Be realistic about your personality, achievements, and mistakes. Don't be afraid to get to know yourself... Sometimes we know that we have some shortcomings, but consciousness does not allow us to adequately assess them.
If you can't do it yourself, ask people you trust.
Be prepared for criticism and do not be offended if you do not hear what you would like.
The change is about motivation. Set goals for yourself: why change, what do you want to achieve in the end, in what time frame.
How to change?
Now we move on to the most difficult stage: the process of changing your personality and life.
Your personality beyond recognition
The manifestation of personality outside - this is our feature. If you know your flaws, work on them.
- Change your schedule drastically. Write a schedule for the day, remove all unnecessary things that prevent you from reaching your goal.
- Pay attention to the life of successful people: read their biography, find out how they went to their goal, what obstacles they overcame. Get inspired by their experiences.
- Learn something new every day.
- Change your social circle. The social environment has a strong influence on us, it can inspire or sink to the bottom.
Eliminate losers, whiners, pessimists from your circle.
- Work on your character traits - improve the positive and try to get rid of the negative.
Inner world
How to change internally? Who are you - a pessimist or an optimist, or perhaps you consider yourself a realist?
We see the world in black colors, pay attention to the negative, as a result, life becomes worse and worse, and positive events disappear from our lives.
Try to see the world with different eyes. It's not easy, especially at the beginning.
Smile when you wake up. Just smile at the new day, even if a difficult job awaits yours, general cleaning, a trip to a government office.
Remember - you yourself create your world.
Do a little exercise: imagine that there is light around you, you radiate a radiance into the world, and all people notice this. White, gentle light that emits kindness, energy, warmth
You will see how your day will go differently, they will start to notice you, give compliments, and yours will be much better.
Thinking positive
How to change your thoughts to positive ones? everyday find something positive around you... Let it be the little things first. It has started raining, a weather conducive to relaxation and reflection.
Getting naughty in transport - maybe the world wants you to pay attention to something or this is a test of your emotional fortitude. See the city with different eyes - architecture, thousands of people rushing to work.
Communicate as little as possible with negative people... Even if you consider them your friends, negativity is contagious.
therefore look for those with whom it is pleasant to communicatewith whom you feel at ease, who increases your energy, and does not take away.
Positive thinking takes practice. At first, it will be difficult to look for the positive, it will seem to you that everything is bad. But after three weeks, you will be surprised to notice how the world began to change, and you are with it.
Beliefs
First, decide if you really need to change them. If other people demand it, remember, beliefs are peculiarities of your personality. Don't change just because others demand it.
If you want to really change beliefs, then read more, evaluate opinions, facts, look for the correct ones.
Lifestyle
It's simple - start doing something right now.Not tomorrow, Monday or New Year, but from now on. If you want to get rid of a bad habit - do it immediately, do not wait for the right moment, because it will not come.
If you want to get up earlier - set the alarm, one is not enough - set three. You will begin to get used to the new regime within a few days.
Waste a lot of time on useless activities - just stop doing them now - turn off social networks, remove the TV from the house, stop meeting people who take up your time and do not benefit you.
Habits
How do you force yourself to change your habits? Motivation is what matters.
Answer your question - why do you want to change your habits. Look to the future.
If you smoke, then remember about health, wrinkles, sagging skin, lung problems that will certainly await you in a few years. Bad habits Is early aging.
You want to have a fresh and blooming look as long as possible, be active, like the opposite sex - then break the habit now... A person gets used to new conditions in about 21 days, you only need to hold out for three weeks.
Attitude to life
Build optimism in yourself. Yes, it seems that everything is bad. In fact, there are many wonderful things in the world. Life was difficult at any time, but now we have so many opportunities that we need to use them.
What does your pessimism give you? You see everything in black and gray. Worried about the health of poor pay, angry people. So start living for yourself. Enjoy life for yourself. Work and achieve for yourself.
Stop complaining. Remember, they don't like complainers and whiners. If you want to feel sorry for you, stop yourself. Nobody cares about our problems, but your complaints will alienate really standing and positive people from you.
How can you change for the better?
For a girl
Girls love strong guys capable of actions.
They prefer those who keep their word, who can be trusted, with whom they are not afraid to go through life.
How to change:
- develop;
- forget about aimless pastime;
- work;
- take time to relax together;
- respect the girl;
- give her time, but do not be too intrusive - attention should not be overwhelmed, otherwise it will quickly get bored.
The most important thing - be purposeful, do not stop there.
For a guy
If you plan to live happily ever after with your boyfriend, you will have to work on your personality.
No, you in no way need to adjust to someone, remain yourself, but develop your best qualities.
What to do:
The worst thing you can think of is falseness and pretense... Stay yourself, develop a positive mindset and strive to be active in life.
Real stories of people
There are many examples of people who decided to radically change their lives, and age is not a hindrance to this.
Daphne Selfie is 86 years old. Glory came to her after 70, when she decided to become a fashion model. Her husband died, the children became adults, and she was faced with a choice - like spending her old age in front of the TV or living for herself.
Grant Ashatz. He defeated cancer and fulfilled his dream - he became a famous chef.
Susan Street 59 years old. She lost weight after 50 years, and since then, dramatic changes began in her life. She has been able to cope with losing her job, having cancer, becoming a vegetarian, starting a blog, and helping other people change.
There are thousands of such examples.
All you need is a push, the realization that your life is meaningless and wrong. Don't wait for the right moment, start changing from this moment.
How to start a new life? 10 steps that will change you and your life: