The principle is based on female etiquette: a woman should never forget that she is a representative of the fair sex. A real lady always has an impeccable appearance, her own style of dressing, reasonably and professionally uses makeup.
Olga Belmach, host of STV:
There is such a folk wisdom that they meet a woman by clothes, and take them away for manners. Therefore, we will start with clothes, and we will end just with the rules of behavior.
The first rule is in clothes. It is worth remembering that there are seasons (summer, winter) and there is a time of day (morning, evening). Clothing here will vary dramatically. For winter it will be denser and darker, for summer it will be lighter and lighter. The same goes for morning and evening. In the morning we dress much easier and less catchy, but in the evening, and only in the evening, sparkles are acceptable. By the way, if you did a manicure, for example, with sparkles, then it is valid only for the evening. The next day in the morning, you must certainly get rid of these sparkles.
According to etiquette, a woman cannot appear at work or on a formal evening without pantyhose or stockings. The light tones of tights are more versatile, but in black legs look slimmer. If you are not sure of the right choice, wear flesh-colored tights. As a rule, they are suitable for any clothes.
Olga Belmach, host of STV:
Remember that at work, the neckline, very short skirts, and even less both, are unacceptable. Very tight and transparent clothing is unacceptable. Knitwear and denim are not very appropriate at work, even if a chic evening dress is sewn from it. Leather clothes are not acceptable, especially for skirts and trousers.
And I would like to talk about a separate aspect (it’s not very convenient to talk about it, but even more inconvenient to see): underwear should not be visible underwear. This is especially true for trousers.
The suit is a universal clothing of a business, everyday nature. Accessories to it are better to choose depending on the nature of the woman’s character: for flirty and cheerful ladies - less ruffle, shuttlecocks, colorful drawings. But low-key rounded collars, small pleats and ruffles on blouses, as well as elegant shoes are more suitable for restrained women, according to the Big Breakfast program on STV.
Olga Belmach, host of STV:
We will not talk about the fact that shoes should be polished, sound, high-quality. The main requirement is to not allow yourself to take off your shoes in the summer. Even in the 30 degree heat, your toe should always be closed. The maximum that you can afford is to bare your heel. But remember that even she in a real woman should be beautiful.
A woman should not wear a lot of jewelry, especially during the day. Of course, evening wear means jewelry, but try not to look like a Christmas tree.
Olga Belmach, host of STV:
One person can have three colors. Acceptable in the extreme case of four, and in no case no more. This rule, by the way, helps to decorate our lives. Try not to have one monotonous color on you. Paint blue, gray, for example, bright red on the chest or in the hair, where appropriate, based on the situation.
What does an elegant woman look like? Good posture: softly lowered shoulders, straight back, slightly inverted stomach. The legs are straight at the knees, but without tension. The arms are slightly bent at the elbows and the chin is raised, but not “pulled up”.
Olga Belmach, host of STV:
According to the rules of etiquette, you can’t keep your legs crossed, you can’t carry your hands in your pockets and you cannot be late. Even on a date. Of course, you can afford 15 minutes, but etiquette does not approve of you even in this case. And if we are talking about a business date, then by no means, it is better to come in advance.
A real woman does not swear, all the more obscene, does not chew gum and does not brush her teeth with a toothpick. This is done purely in the ladies room.
Moreover, in front of the eyes of other people you can’t powder yourself, comb your hair, use perfume. A ladies' room is also specially reserved for this.
Manners of a woman should not be defiant. When talking, do not exaggerate facial expressions, laugh too loudly or pretend to be feigned indifference to everyone and everything. In a word, a lady should be natural and feel at ease.
Olga Belmach, host of STV:
Going somewhere to the light, remember that a woman may not represent her companion to others. It is assumed that it may not correspond to its level. But a man, by the way, is in no case unacceptable not to imagine his companion. This is extremely indecent.
As for the performance, it starts with those who are below the rank. First they represent the youngest and only then represent the oldest.
Also, according to the rules of etiquette, the husband and wife at the table do not sit nearby. They don’t even sit opposite each other. As a rule, quite distant places are provided for them. But at the same time, the wife does not have the right to flirt in the presence of her husband.
During communication with a man, a woman should not talk much. Do not focus on your troubles, financial difficulties, love failures. However, it’s also not worth keeping silent - this will put your interlocutor in an awkward position, they said in the Big Breakfast program on STV.
Olga Belmach, host of STV:
And remember that a woman creates a holiday not only going out to people, but also at home. That is why she is not allowed to walk around the house in a bathrobe or in her pajamas. By breakfast, she must not only change clothes, but also put herself in order.
Another “home” rule for women, because it is they who, as a rule, violate this rule: women cannot read SMS and diaries of either their own husband or their own children.
And I want to end with the words of the heroine Audrey Hepburn: "Remember that good manners even from a street girl can make a real lady."
Someone said long ago that there is no friendship between a man and a woman. A very simple conclusion follows from this: even if friendly relations are maintained between them, some subtext of flirting is always present. This should not be feared. It is only necessary to separate understatement and hints from simple communication, if it is not assumed that they will soon switch to a qualitatively new round. Well, if you really want to switch ...
At a minimum, the girl’s behavior should not cause irritation and be pleasant in any environment.
The etiquette of communication with a guy
Of course, one must begin with the simplest. Girl should look good. This does not mean that it should have expensive clothes, cosmetics, perfumes. Everything can be very simple, but neatly and tastefully selected. Of great importance is well-groomed arms and legs, a suitable hairstyle for the overall image.
It is equally important to observe the same harmony in behavior. Active gestures and facial expressions, a loud voice and provocative laughter cause rejection and will not help to lead to continued meetings.
Modern emancipation should not completely hide from the eyes (and other senses) of a man that a girl needs his care and care. To demonstrate this, trivial techniques from the rules of etiquette that have developed over many centuries are perfect.
- Approaching a chair near the table before dinner, you need to look back at him. This is enough to help the man sit down.
- When overcoming any obstacle, a man can (and should) give a hand, otherwise he may be embarrassed to offer a hand first and will be in an ambiguous position (did not help).
- If a girl accidentally witnessed a meeting of her companion with acquaintances, one should not strive to take an active part in the conversation, a gracious greeting and restrained attention are enough.
Boyfriend etiquette
When communicating with a man, one should show him an interest in him. A girl should not "to maintain a conversation" speak incessantly. A more favorable impression will be formed about her if she, by asking leading questions, provides an opportunity to speak out to her interlocutor. This simplifies further communication and is a good example in etiquette of behavior with a young man.
- If a girl was invited to a restaurant and offered to choose a treat to her taste, she should choose something from the average price range: the cheapest dish will demonstrate that she is shy, the most expensive is her tactlessness (suddenly her companion has a limited budget). You should not run "to powder a nose" every 15 minutes and chat on the phone.
- Driving in a car requires certain skills. If a girl with a stranger, you have to wait until he opens the door in front of her (great if even an old friend does not forget about it). So she will not be mistaken with the place where she has to go. Getting into the car, you must carefully lower yourself to the edge of the chair, and then move the legs inward. When leaving, it is also better to first, turning slightly to put your feet on the ground, and then stand up.
What kind of girls do guys like
Finally, how to behave with a guy who liked and likes, with whom girl is not averse to continue dating ?
First of all, the girl sets the distance. If she allows herself or a guy to break it, then sympathy has arisen. Obviously, this can be demonstrated by occasional light touches (no one canceled “talking” looks).
On an intuitive level, if a man sees how a girl constantly touches his hair, wrists, he understands that he came to heart.
Many people forget about such seemingly common truths, and then they are surprised for a long time that the man who really liked him at the first meeting, and with whom the girl would not mind getting to know each other, suddenly disappeared. Do not push away with petty negligence from yourself the one who can become your only one and adhere to etiquette not only for acquaintance and rapprochement, but also in everyday life.
GKOU of the Moscow region for children - orphans and children left
without parental care “Transfiguration”
rules
"Etiquette for girls"
Prepared by:
Educator
Zhuravleva E.I.
2016 year
You can be anything you want: right, protesting, modest, loud, obedient, rebel, clever, hooligan, dandelion girl or scandal girl; you can listen to any kind of music and follow any principles you like; you can even set rules for yourself and break them yourself. But in any case, having an idea that there is rudeness, bad manners and bad manners will not hurt. And not because the world has gone mad. But because it becomes fashionable to observe etiquette.
1.Hello
FIRST RULE OF WELCOME
You can say hello in different ways: with a kiss, a handshake, or just kind words. The main thing is that the greeting should be "heard" only by the person to whom it is directly addressed, and not by everyone around. Therefore, avoid deliberately loud greetings, long hugs and hot kisses.
RULE TWO
With a verbal greeting, the boys greet us first, and we are charged primarily with welcoming older people. If on the street, walking with a boyfriend, you met a girlfriend who walks her, then first you greet a girlfriend, then your young men are with each other, and only after that you should say “hello” to the boys.
RULE THREE
A long pause at a meeting looks very awkward. Do not be afraid to say hello first and follow the aphorism in such situations: the one who is better educated is the first to say hello.
2. Street etiquette
WALK
In ancient times, when men wore a sword on the left, a tradition developed: the young lady goes to the right of the knight. Then another rule appeared - a man should go where it is more dangerous (for example, from the roadway). Modern etiquette says: the girl goes on the right in official cases, but in ordinary life you can not bother. Shamelessly loading a boyfriend with heavy bags is normal, but you should not give him a handbag in any case.
ROADSIDE PICNIC
Eating ice cream on the street is not a sin, only for this you need to step aside, it is even better to sit on a bench in the park (by the way, this is much more convenient). But getting into public transport with food, bitten hot dogs and open bottles is extremely indecent. By the way, in Singapore, until recently, even chewing gum was banned on the street.
RAIN-GUNS
If the umbrella is opened, make sure that it does not hurt other people. According to etiquette in rainy weather, a young man holds an umbrella over the girl’s head if they are the same height or he is slightly taller than her. If the difference in growth is large, each carries its own umbrella. Or a young man walks without an umbrella :) If after rain you enter the room, put a cover on the umbrella, yes
and generally try to keep the umbrella closer to you so as not to wet anyone.
3. By clothes
The main requirement for clothing is its cleanliness. It’s not bad, of course, to make sure that the clothes correspond to the place, time, nature of the event.
In case of doubt, it is always better to choose a slightly more conservative option.
You can only put yourself in order at home or in the "girls room". To comb your hair, brush your nails, straighten clothes in public places, at a table, on the street - not comme il faut. Well, does it just tint the lips.
4. Ying da house
YOU GOING IN THE GUEST
They are waiting for you at the appointed time, the teapot puffs on the stove, the sandwiches are frozen on the table. Despite the fact that it is considered that the “right” guests are always a bit late, this is strictly forbidden by etiquette. Having greeted the guests, it is not necessary to arrange a thorough study of whether there is a lot of dust on the piano and whether the dried ficus has been watered for a long time. Girls with manners should not be closely examined;)
Do not look at your watch often while away. If you need to leave before the other guests start to disperse, do it unnoticed by the others, having apologized to the owners first.
GUESTS GO TO YOU
Think carefully in advance. The main rule is that guests are invited to the table no later than half an hour after the start of the party, even if they are still not gathered. Keep in mind that even in spite of severe attacks of hunger, the housewife is impolite to attack food and eat everything first. Guests must eat first.
5 your entertainment
CINEMA
It’s stupid to be late, because if this happened, the well-educated young lady will have to sit on the first available seats, even if the most expensive tickets are in your pocket. To remind that before entering the hall you need to turn off the mobile phone, hopefully not? It is also forbidden to laugh out loud, throw popcorn, rustle with chocolate candy wrappers and discuss the advantages and disadvantages of the protagonist throughout the room.
A RESTAURANT
A young man should always be the first to enter a restaurant, cafe and other similar establishments, and you should be the one to follow him. Sitting at the table, he should give you the menu and offer to choose first. Then he looks at the menu himself and orders a waiter for both of you.
Start eating when everyone gets the order. Only if those waiting in the wings themselves will offer you to start a meal, can you start to chew earlier than others.
Blowing on food, smelling it, smacking it, and laying out your elbows on the table is not welcome. The biggest mistake, worse than picking with a fork in your teeth, is with a knife. A tablespoon is not sent to the mouth in its entirety. To eat the rest of the soup painlessly, you need to tilt the edge of the plate not towards you, but away from you. If you find yourself in an awkward situation, accidentally spilling or dropping something (who doesn’t happen to anyone), don’t rush to immediately correct your mistake. Wipe the tablecloth only with a napkin, and do not swipe the crumbs on the floor, but collect them in a napkin. If pieces of food or drops accidentally fall onto clothing, remove them unnoticed.
In the restaurant, many are confused by the abundance of appliances. Remember the reaction of the heroine Julia Roberts in “Pretty Woman?” In fact, there is a completely simple basic principle: always start with the devices that are closer to the plate and use the device that is closest for each next dish. When the instruments lie horizontally above the plate, they are intended for dessert. With glasses it’s easier - the waiter himself will pour where he needs to. Take them from right to left, as they stand only on one side of the table. You don’t need to warm your hands on the glasses, grab a cup of coffee, tea with both hands tightly, and it is customary to hold glasses with champagne and wine by the leg. You ask why? And so that the drink does not lose its ideal temperature faster than necessary. Having finished eating, they put the knife and fork in parallel. During the break, the knife and fork are laid crosswise. In a cafe, a used tea bag is usually put on a saucer. And while stirring the sugar with a spoon, do not touch the edges of the cup so that there is no sound.
If after dinner you decide to refresh your already light girl’s breath with chewing gum, then know that before throwing away a bored lump, it is better to pack it in a piece of paper napkin or paper. And do not try to stick the chewing gum under the table, under the chair, under the bench, as well as throw it into the ashtray.
The invoice is usually paid by the person who invited. The waiter will bring the bill to the one who made the order. The invoice is submitted so that the amount is not visible. If you pay, celebrating, for example, a holiday with friends, there is no need to demonstrate how much was spent on them. Being invited, avoid two extremes: ordering the most expensive dishes and manifestations of excessive modesty.
6. Hard gestures
Imagine what would happen if you wave your hands while walking, fussily correct something in your clothes or hairdo, often pull up your sleeves to look at your watch, constantly get something out of your bags and pockets and stuff it back in? Not a beauty.
7. You are in the stadium
So he succeeded. I mean, drag you to a football match. Of course, it is your direct responsibility to cheer on your favorite team or player, but it’s not worth it at all to vote, shout insults at the playing teams and any of the fans (from a bickering up to a fight). If possible, do not jump up during the acute moments of the game, so as not to disturb those who are sitting behind. Each game, competition is a kind of art, and true connoisseurs are going to watch them. But you are one of them?
8. You and shopping
The seller is the face of the store. Say hello when entering a small shop (you do not need to do this at the supermarket).
If you plan to become a regular customer of a small store, such as a bakery in your home, it is appropriate to meet you. Be friendly, but not intrusive. It would be nice to outline in advance what and how much you need (with a large list it is best to make a list) so as not to take time from other buyers and the seller. You can contact the seller only at "you", regardless of her or his age. The appeal of a “girl” to an elderly female seller is absurd and tactless (they can be regarded as a mockery, didn’t you mean that?). You don’t have to shop just because you’ve come to the store, you don’t have to feel uncomfortable if none of the things you tried did. But still you should not spend hours trying on fitting, chasing the seller there and back and forcing to bring one or the other, no matter how cool it may be. Refusing to buy, say “thank you” to the seller for your attention.
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