We are different. Thirty-year women. Twenty-year-old men. Students. Artists. Musicians pretending to lawyers. Poets who love to drive bus. People who understand that the work has started in a dead end, and people grateful to fate that there is at least some job. We are different. But we have a common pain. We do not use your abilities to truly.
About how to find your way and understand yourself, El Moon wrote once in a blog. And after a couple of weeks, more than 5 million people shared this text. "Throw everything you do, and read this text," people shared with such messages. And now the book "Between it is necessary and I want."
So throw everything. And read.
Surprisingly beautiful
It is so beautiful book that it makes no sense to describe it with words. See.
Tasty and bright book inspiration in the cover with caramel letters. Seriously, when I first saw the cover - I wanted to lick. Fragrant (all new books smell like that, and books with dreams - especially!) And awesome beautiful. Even if you are a fan of e-books - this you exactly want in paper.
What inside? Delicious stories. Useful exercises. And sea. Sea inspiration on each page.
El Moon, designer and book author, worked in IDEO and startups, including Mailbox, Medium and Uber. But he decided - and changed everything. Now it controls the textile company Bulan Project connecting designers with masters of painting on Baliki.
She got whatever. And tells how you can do.
Between it and I want to want
There are two ways in life: "I need" and I want. From the very birth, we are told that you have to do. "It is necessary" - these are the opinions of others about how we live. These are all the expectations that others lay on us. Sometimes these "need" are small: "You need to listen to this song!" In other cases, "it is necessary" - other people's thoughts that make us live in a different way.
Taking "necessary", we choose life for someone or something else than we ourselves.
We come to the intersection "need" and "I want" again and again. And every day choose, - Illustration from the book.
"Want" - this is who we are actually, what we believe and what we are doing with you here. "I want" appears when we stop fitting someone else's ideals and go to meet our own. Only in this case we reveal the potential.
"I want" is the best choice that we can do in life.
What do you now?
The most frequent choice between "need" and "I want" we do in relation to work. Or not work? .. Here, for example, a cosmonaut is a job or a calling? Let's deal with.
Writer Thomas Eliot worked in a bank. Kurt Vonnegut sold cars. One of the greatest composers of modern times Philip Glass began to earn on his calling only in 41 years. The premieres of his works took place in the Metropolitan Opera, and he continued to work by the plumber.
Any work deserves respect. If you work only in order to pay bills, it is not bad. And what you want to find your calling does not mean that you need to leave. There is no contradiction here.
But it is important to understand that you now Do you do? Is it a job or calling?
Dream game
Once I came to the party, where guests were offered to record the most bold and crazy dreams on cards. I listened to how people share their audacious dreams. My were dull and boring and did not completely worry me. Come home, I decided to seriously take them.
I began to pay close attention to my desires and gusts - big and small. Intuition enhanced and allowed to hear a quiet inner voice that asked something crazy, stupid, dirty, quiet. The more I fed him, the louder he spoke.
Now the cards with dreams hung even in the bathroom and above the kitchen sink. Desires fell out of the pockets of the coat and fell into the bags of other people. It turns out that frankly we recognize yourself in desires, the more consciously spend your time.
Enter the same. Allow yourself to tell yourself (yes yes) what your heart wants.
Purpose
We cannot prove the existence of the destination. But we know that it exists, because, approaching him, we feel it with a heart.
"When we connect to the vocation, we get to another space," said the artist Keith Haring, - we connect with the phenomena of the universal scale, which are completely outside our ego and self. This is the most important thing. "
It is possible to believe that your destination will appear fully formed, are akin to faith that you can write a book, just wanting this and thinking about it. But if you do one small thing every day - take a pen, write a paragraph of text, draw up a list of words, - then your destination will manifest.
And what in the end?
That very sense of life. And wealth, if you need it. The richest people in the world fill their days and nights invaluable gifts of life:
Everything comes to us at the right time. Not earlier. And no later. Imagine that this letter and the story about the book turned out to be in front of you, because you wanted to read them. And because you have long seen this life crossroads and are ready for travel.
Back in book
- How to find out what you really want
- Four questions that everyone should ask yourself
- How to find time and money on "Want", when five children and mortgage
- Why the destination eludes us
- Where to take money on that life that you like
- How to get rid of false "need"
- How to deal with fears from the series "I have 30-40-90 years old ..."
- Where to find time on what you love
- How to become truly happy ... and much more.
Your life belongs to you. But only if you yourself at the helm. Go along the way "I want" every day. Ten minutes can be found everywhere. Ten minutes while the kettle boils, - go ahead! Ten minutes in traffic jam - ahead!
What do you choose? Need? Want?
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By El Luna
A bright book that will inspire you to find your true calling and follow him.
Which of us did not ask the question: "How can I find my true vocation?" El Moon characterizes it as an intersection between "it is necessary" and "I want." "It is necessary" - this is what we have to do, as it seems to us, or that others expect from us. "I want" - what we dream in the depths of the soul.
Own way inspired the author to writing a manifesto about the difference between "need" and "Want", which 5 million Twitter users shared and who read hundreds of thousands of people. "I wanted to send it to all my employees," wrote one supervisor who read the article - but I realized that a third of them would leave if they read it. But you know what? If they do not want to work here, they need to quit - so I sent this article. "
Now the ideas of El about the difference between "need" and "want" are presented in this inspirational bright book, which is useful to the student, and the artist, and anyone who is looking for his calling and wants to change his life for the better.
Year of publication: 2016
Posted by: El Moon
Translator: translation from English Anastasia Sukhanova
Publisher: Mann, Ivanov and Ferber
ISBN: 978-5-00100-093-8
Russian language
Format: PDF.
Quality: publishing layout or text (eBook)
Interactive table of contents: Yes
Number of pages: 151
Description
A bright book that will inspire you to find your true calling and follow him.
Who among us was not asked: how can I find my true calling? El Moon characterizes him as an intersection between necessary and want. Cool all this probably came up with Schwarzenegger spending enough time. It is necessary - this is what we have to do, as it seems to us, or that others expect us. I want - what we dream in the depths of the soul.
Our own way inspired the author to write a manifest about the difference between the difference and I want to share 5 million twitter users and who read hundreds of thousands of people. I wanted to send it to all my employees, "wrote one supervisor, who read the article," but I realized that a third of them would leave if they read it. But you know what? If they do not want to work here, they need to quit - so I sent this article.
Now the ideas of El about the difference between it is necessary and want to be presented in this inspirational bright book, which is useful to the student, and the artist, and any person who is looking for his calling and wants to change his life for the better.
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Published with WORKMAN Publishing Company permission
Translation from English Anastasia Sukhanova
First Published in the United States
aS The Crossroads of SHOLD AND MUST
© 2015, Elle Luna, Illustrations Copyright © 2015, Elle Luna
Published by Arrangement with Workman Publishing Company, Inc., New York.
© Translation into Russian, publication in Russian, design. Mann, Ivanov and Ferber LLC, 2016
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Between it and I want to want
Find your way and follow him
Chief Editor Artem Stepanov
Responsible editor Maria Krasovskaya
Editor Elizabeth Tsygankova
Lettering Varvara Grankova
Layout Julia Rakhmanina
Binding Varvara Grankova
Correctors Yaroslav Tereshchenkov, Hope Bolotina
* * *Between it and I want to want
Find your way and follow him
Dedicated to my family
We share thoughts on the Internet. Everyday. All the time. But this message was special. It is so much so much that in a few weeks they were shared on Twitter over 5 million people, more than 250 thousand people were read.
"Throw everything you do now and read this text," one woman wrote. "This article has changed my life," the other commented on. "I wanted to send it to all employees," I wrote a boss, "I understood: I read this text, one third will leave. Do you know what? If they do not want to work here, let them dismiss, and I sent this article. "
A flurry of letters collapsed on me. In the phone, then the alerts from Twitter lit up. The article has spread through the Internet in the blink of an eye, in the end, becoming even more popular. So she continued his journey ... to this book. I decided to write it for the sake of people who shared their stories; For the sake of pain and courage that I saw in their struggle. Thirty-year women. Twenty-year-old men. Graduate school. Widow. Single mother. "Poor" millionaires. People without money that were actually rich. Teachers. Lawyers. A musician pretending to the lawyer. The poet who loved led city bus. Women who did not want to have children. Fathers who wanted to raise children. People who understood that the work began them in a dead end, and people, desperately grateful to the fate for having at least some kind of work.
The pain is experienced everything, regardless of gender, age and place of residence. And in fact, this pain is the same -
All too often feel that they do not live in full life, because they do not use their abilities to truly.
I received letters from people who seemed to be ready to do everything to get rid of displeasure to life, but did not know how.
These pages are written in support of your inner voice, which you can give this world something special. They are granted to remind: although you do not know where this road will lead, you have already passed very many, they allow you to forget everything that should be done. To remember what you want to do.
Today is Thursday, 11:55 in the morning. Last time I press the "Save" button in this document before it starts my day trip. I noticed that everything comes to us at the right time. Not earlier. And no later. Imagine that this book was in your hands, because you wanted to read it. And because one of your half saw this life intersection and you are ready for travel. With respect and gratitude, I see how these words find their way from me to you, one way or another, in one way or another at the right time. Thank you for becoming part of this strange and amazing journey. From one traveler to another: in a good way!
Before quenching, the artist and designer El Luna managed to work in the companies IDEO, Mailbox, Medium and Uber, but, choosing between creativity and career opportunities, preferred the first. In the publishing house, the myth reached the Russian-language version of her book "Between I want and want" - an illustrated collection of advice, quotes and personal observations, which became a bestseller, that there is a purpose and how to look for it. T & P chose some of them.
Know we need
If you want to live a full life and be free, you must first understand why you are not free, which hinders you. The word prison ("Prison") comes from Latin Praehendere, which means "capture", "grab", "catch". Prison is not necessarily a place in space; It can be any idea created by your mind. What caught you? The natural process of socialization requires the person to be influenced by various you need, Functioning in such a way as part of society. However, growing, it is useful to be aware of those we needwhich you got genetically or thanks to the upbringing. Some we need You can appreciate and save, while others should refuse. If you want to know how to live according to the principle want, find out the principle we need. This is hard work. Really hard. We unconsciously plant yourself in prison to avoid the most important fears. We choose we needbecause you choose want Scary and incomprehensible. Our prison is built on the principle we need Of the countless situations of the choice, for which we involuntarily agreed, from the "walls" who lead us from themselves. But we need leads to want. You create your prison and can free yourself.
Do not be afraid to ask for help
When you look at your we need, I deliberately choose a meeting with your personal prison - the expectations of other people, the convictions that you have accepted without faith, and everyone agreed with, not aware. Lifting the list of your list we needYou risk to face the deepest fears, and the wise decision will find support. This is a job for professionals - psychotherapists, consultants and specialists trained in these issues. Working with a psychotherapist in everyday life is similar to work with the coach in the gym, except that the psychotherapist works not with the muscles, but with the authority who considers itself the main (brain), and the source that really controls everything (soul).
Remember yourself
The very idea that you have a vocation, or purpose (your want) - What should it be with you, can put in a dead end. It's unbearable. It is believed to believe that your destination will appear fully formed, the faith that you can write a book, just wanting this and thinking about it. But if you do one small thing every day - take a pen, write a paragraph of text, draw up a list of words, - then your destination will manifest. Never purpose does not manifest much more than in childhood. What were you in childhood? What did you like to do? Have you been loner or preferred a company? Have you been independent or choose cooperation? Were the organizer or dreamer? If you do not remember, call my mother or someone who knew you well in early childhood. Ask how you were. Take notes in time and keep them: there are the earliest grains of your future destination.
Look for repetitive motifs
Look for repetitive motives, topics and communications. Like to work in a pair? Hate sitting all day in one place? In this paper, is the sensory stimulation? Pay attention to those cases when, it would seem, the fragmented classes become associated. When new ideas pop up, add them to your list. When assumptions arise, do not let them go. Then start experimenting and playing with what is learning. Share thoughts with those who trust. Take into account their opinion and continue until you start the way home - to your destination.
Get ready for rebellion
When we find what we want to do, the most basic brain defensive centers raise the alarm. The signal to the rebellion is activated. Protective mechanisms begin their work. Because the choice in favor of your want Raises extremely important and terrible questions. Let's be practical. People have four main questions regarding the search for this purpose. The first is money. The second argument against the destination is time. The space is the third stumbling block for finding your destination. But while money, time and space are the arguments that we use most often in order not to go along the path of our destination, there is another fear, and it scares much more, but they talk much less about him. By choosing the destination, you will need to resist some impressive fears. You will feel vulnerable. Perhaps, be given questions: Will your favorite people leave you, whether the places will remain the same, whether there will be no life alone. You may ask yourself why it is generally necessary. Incomprehensible dream? Children's fantasy? A fleet feeling that can not be understood or explained? It is here, standing at the crossroads meanwhile that we want, and what we need, we feel how real our fears are, and this is the very moment when many decide to incorporate intuition, turning away from the path in which there are no guarantees in which Nothing is known and everything is possible.
Do something
Choosing wantYou must act. You must do something. This is a small, but an important point that can take several days, years or a lifetime. When ready, you choose it, doing anything, it doesn't matter, the big one step or small. So you start walking along the path of your destination. This path requires to afford to happen to an unknown, but he does not ask for the danger of herself or loved ones. Choosing want, You should not become a truth, which reports that it is going to commit unheard. This is not a spectacular sport. The calling is too important, it is extremely important to be chosen due to whims, from azart, from intoxication. The most loyal want Remote slowly, thoughtfully and quiet. They do not come impulsively, but lined up, based on sober, common intentions. It matters every decision you accept. Ten minutes of privacy. Once selection of installation want instead we need. Organization of your space. Your desires written and pinned to the wall. Yours wantYour destination is not distant land where you are hoping to ever come, it will not happen tomorrow or ever another time. Its purpose must be accommodated today, at this moment.
Inspire surrounding
This is a constant effort, hard work (and inexplicably life-affirming occupation) - recognize yourself, their beliefs and its purpose on this land. The choice of the path of its destination is the most significant, because this harmonious and filled lifestyle will be reflected in everything you do. Your sacred space and daily steps will acquire even more sense. You will build a wonderful world for your destination. And with time, the tempting idea will seem forever to remain in this magic place you created and never return to everyday life. But the full and most importantly, the journey requires you to return, sharing our destination and thus inspired others.
Percel this search as a journey
This journey is not new; Perhaps it is one of the oldest undertakings of mankind. In some tribes of Inuit and Indigenous Americans, members of the community went to see the search to gain enlightenment. They went to the wilderness for several days, often refusing food. The purpose of the journey was reunited with the nature and world of spirits and the experience of dreams or visions in reality, giving instructions through this dive. At a certain period of life, Australian Aborigines went to vagabond, sometimes for several months, were traveling, denoting the transition to adulthood.